Sometimes I find myself searching for a blueprint.
"3 steps to stay healthy / find brotherhood / become rich / have a great relationship etc."
Then I stop and ask myself: Is this who I want to be? A person who needs a babysitter for life?
What happens when the blueprint somehow doesn't work?
What happens when I skip one step?
Is it me or the blueprint?
How does a blueprint handle change?
Why do I even care about a blueprint? Fear? Laziness? Need for security?
One of the best skills to master is robustness and antifragility.
That's why I think in frameworks instead of blueprints.
Each project/goal I have has some underlying fundamentals:
- Staying healthy: biology, psychology
- Finding brotherhood: psychology, sociology
- Becoming rich: psychology, economy
- Having a great relationship: psychology, sociology, communication
As we can see, there is a lot of science involved, e.g. psychology is everywhere.
That's why I read scientific books.
And then I create my framework - a set of rules and habits with a contextual note.
- when I am with people, I don't have my phone nearby me
- when I am with people, I try not to judge them
- when I sleep, I don't use an alarm
- when I eat, I do nothing else
The difference to a blueprint is the fact, that all these things are based on my contextual knowledge about myself.
They also have a high probability to work, because they are backed by science.
These are the things that work for me. Maybe not for you.
If a tool does not work, I use another one.
I am open for change.